Children are our future, our main pleasure. It is sense of our life, after all in children we see continuation ourselves and, thus, we find immortality of mankind. However to some women is not important immortality of a sort. I carry to them also myself. I don't want children, and acquaintances don't understand sincerely me. And after all I too have, "iron" reasons …
… As you can not want this small lump which will bring to you so much pleasure? – The friend with astonishment asks. … already 27 – it is time to you, - it is sympathizing doctors advise. … and who the mankind will continue? – With a reproach the friend of the husband questions.
… And I don't want children. If to reject all to whom I "should" and look attentively in myself, I understand that I should want children for any household reasons (for example, apartments aren't present). I don't want them in general as I do not test neither the slightest desire, nor requirement to become mother. And on that is, at least, 10 reasons.
The reason 1: I concern to 6 %
Under the scientific data 6-7 % of women don't have parent instinct. In my opinion, it is senseless to give birth, if you do not test deep love of children. On my quite sensible argument the silliest answer often sounds: «When will appear, - you will want». It is absolutely illogical. For example, you hate red pepper or green color of the car. You don't buy red pepper or a green car in hope (or even confidence) that after their purchase in you the love to what you never loved … will wake up
The reason 2: education of children is a calling
Undoubtedly, to devote to the child almost all free time, it is necessary to want to listen to infinite shouts and babble, to clean and prepare, play with the child in a ball and didactic games, to train it. Consider, it after all at all a hobby which at any moment it is possible to throw and begin the new. It is eternal penal servitude, attachment. It if want, the original form of a serfdom …
The reason 3: career or the child
Women who change in this combination "or" on "and", risk to undermine health or to give up as a bad job career. The Child not to put anywhere. And to mums who after several months have come to work, having employed the nurse, and at all you will not envy. First, it will pour out it in weak contact to the child. Secondly, whether there is a firm confidence of talents and abilities of any nurse? At last, and what for it was necessary, if now you don't want or can't give it enough time?
The reason 4: a physical pain
I simply am afraid of any physical pain. The campaign to tooth for me is an accident of republican scale. And here... Understand. To carry the child 9 months are necessary, and the last couple of months is a train of sufferings. Cases when women can't be delivered till some days are frequent. And any complications in addition.
The reason 5: fear
The ecological situation influences a fruit in the drama image. It is good, if illness is something like an allergy and if the child with intellectual or physical restrictions is born, - you are ready to that it is necessary to be discharged from office and all life to devote to care of the child to which never you can help.? Anybody such I do not wish, but after all happens...
The reason 6: life – suffering
Life, of course, a class piece! But also mucks in it decently. From them also it is weaved, basically, our life (an exception - incorrigible optimists). Agree, problems much more, than joyful surprises of Fate.
The reason 7the rare man can be a support
As to "the man's" world scientific statistics, here figures even more "encouraging". 93 % of men at all don't have fatherly instinct (compare about "female" 7 %). It is quite clear, why millions men without a conscience backlash refuse to pay elements and for years don't remember about the children. At women of such cases – units. As so, - you ask. – and the fathers of safe families gently cherishing children? The answer can be only two: or this father is included into number 7 of % which test a fatherly instinct, or... They very much love women, mothers of these children and as a part of this woman, love the child.
With men all is clear. Really you are ready to charge with all burden of education yourselves, having given up as a bad job private life and career, on own desires? Personally I – wasn't present.
The reason 8: people are ungrateful
Many mums and fathers dare at a birth of children in hope of gratitude of the last. And as прогадывают! As often we hear from old men that they all life worked on children, and from those, ungrateful, even the help won't wait. Certainly, giving so much, people can't reconcile to absence of return. At the best children will call to you few times in a week, in the worst – when once again something from you is necessary for them. And so frequently.
The reason 9: egoism?!
Our life so is short and fleeting. 1/3 lives we sleep, 1/3 we devote to work. And only 1/3 remains for private life. If to take away a life (road for work, shops, washing, an ironing, cooking, meal, bathing etc.), at us remains no more than 4 hours per day on itself. On taking pleasure in life, to be charged by new energy, to meditate, read the favourite literature.
And if to introduce in the life eternally shouting child, time for doesn't remain absolutely. You owe to all: to the chief, the husband, parents, children, but only not to itself...
… As you can not want this small lump which will bring to you so much pleasure? – The friend with astonishment asks. … already 27 – it is time to you, - it is sympathizing doctors advise. … and who the mankind will continue? – With a reproach the friend of the husband questions.
… And I don't want children. If to reject all to whom I "should" and look attentively in myself, I understand that I should want children for any household reasons (for example, apartments aren't present). I don't want them in general as I do not test neither the slightest desire, nor requirement to become mother. And on that is, at least, 10 reasons.
The reason 1: I concern to 6 %
Under the scientific data 6-7 % of women don't have parent instinct. In my opinion, it is senseless to give birth, if you do not test deep love of children. On my quite sensible argument the silliest answer often sounds: «When will appear, - you will want». It is absolutely illogical. For example, you hate red pepper or green color of the car. You don't buy red pepper or a green car in hope (or even confidence) that after their purchase in you the love to what you never loved … will wake up
The reason 2: education of children is a calling
Undoubtedly, to devote to the child almost all free time, it is necessary to want to listen to infinite shouts and babble, to clean and prepare, play with the child in a ball and didactic games, to train it. Consider, it after all at all a hobby which at any moment it is possible to throw and begin the new. It is eternal penal servitude, attachment. It if want, the original form of a serfdom …
The reason 3: career or the child
Women who change in this combination "or" on "and", risk to undermine health or to give up as a bad job career. The Child not to put anywhere. And to mums who after several months have come to work, having employed the nurse, and at all you will not envy. First, it will pour out it in weak contact to the child. Secondly, whether there is a firm confidence of talents and abilities of any nurse? At last, and what for it was necessary, if now you don't want or can't give it enough time?
The reason 4: a physical pain
I simply am afraid of any physical pain. The campaign to tooth for me is an accident of republican scale. And here... Understand. To carry the child 9 months are necessary, and the last couple of months is a train of sufferings. Cases when women can't be delivered till some days are frequent. And any complications in addition.
The reason 5: fear
The ecological situation influences a fruit in the drama image. It is good, if illness is something like an allergy and if the child with intellectual or physical restrictions is born, - you are ready to that it is necessary to be discharged from office and all life to devote to care of the child to which never you can help.? Anybody such I do not wish, but after all happens...
The reason 6: life – suffering
Life, of course, a class piece! But also mucks in it decently. From them also it is weaved, basically, our life (an exception - incorrigible optimists). Agree, problems much more, than joyful surprises of Fate.
The reason 7the rare man can be a support
As to "the man's" world scientific statistics, here figures even more "encouraging". 93 % of men at all don't have fatherly instinct (compare about "female" 7 %). It is quite clear, why millions men without a conscience backlash refuse to pay elements and for years don't remember about the children. At women of such cases – units. As so, - you ask. – and the fathers of safe families gently cherishing children? The answer can be only two: or this father is included into number 7 of % which test a fatherly instinct, or... They very much love women, mothers of these children and as a part of this woman, love the child.
With men all is clear. Really you are ready to charge with all burden of education yourselves, having given up as a bad job private life and career, on own desires? Personally I – wasn't present.
The reason 8: people are ungrateful
Many mums and fathers dare at a birth of children in hope of gratitude of the last. And as прогадывают! As often we hear from old men that they all life worked on children, and from those, ungrateful, even the help won't wait. Certainly, giving so much, people can't reconcile to absence of return. At the best children will call to you few times in a week, in the worst – when once again something from you is necessary for them. And so frequently.
The reason 9: egoism?!
Our life so is short and fleeting. 1/3 lives we sleep, 1/3 we devote to work. And only 1/3 remains for private life. If to take away a life (road for work, shops, washing, an ironing, cooking, meal, bathing etc.), at us remains no more than 4 hours per day on itself. On taking pleasure in life, to be charged by new energy, to meditate, read the favourite literature.
And if to introduce in the life eternally shouting child, time for doesn't remain absolutely. You owe to all: to the chief, the husband, parents, children, but only not to itself...
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